Where Does that Sense of Unworthiness Come From?

Many of us are listening to too many negative messages all day long – and I’m not talking about the online stories we’re scrolling through. I’m talking about the messages we hear in our head!

Is it any wonder so many of us are battling a sense of unworthiness?

Where Does that Sense of Unworthiness Come From?

It comes from these negative internal messages.

The way a parent or caregiver speaks to their child creates a child’s self-talk, so there’s a clue. But how does that self-talk develop within a child? Well, let’s consider that.

Do the messages they hear from parents contain criticism, unrealistic expectations, or even hatred? Or does the parent’s speech give the gift of kindness, patience, and encouragement? 

“Speech” not only refers to the words a parent says to a child, but also to their thoughts about the child – yes, children can feel that.   

So, what is Genuine Parenting?

Genuine parenting communicates love, respect and relaxed encouragement. Sadly, many of us received countless messages that did not reflect genuine parenting.

It’s not unusual. Throughout history, unskillful parents (repeating the habits of their own unskillful parents or caregivers) have not known how to communicate love, respect, and relaxed encouragement. Instead, they end up communicating shame, intimidation, judgment, punishment, neglect, gaslighting, ridicule, and fear of relationships. 

Such unskillful communication is abusive. If you received such treatment as a child, you are probably repeating these messages to yourself – perhaps many times a day – without even realizing it.

The real problem is that we’ve forgotten where these negative messages came from. We think they are our own true and accurate thoughts about ourselves. Because we have claimed these thoughts as our own, we resist throwing them away. Even when they rob us of confidence and prevent us from connecting with other people.

This is a serious problem, and it causes real harm. But once you learn how to get free of negative self-talk, overcoming it is a delightful process!

In the upcoming webinar, Stop the Shadow Dance of Unworthiness, I’m going to share highly effective methods I have taught to thousands of people. These methods will empower you to reveal and remove these negative internal messages, along with the deep sense of unworthiness they create.

When we stop repeating abusive messages to ourselves, we also stop spreading them to others, including children.

Join us for this surprisingly delightful and liberating adventure on Wednesdays from May 8-29!

Full details and registration here.