Having worked with clients and students for many years, I’ve noticed that we are often extremely skilled at deluding and torturing ourselves. How do we do it? We speak using virtuous-sounding euphemisms for what are actually harsh and fear-inducing judgments. In my opinion, that is the case with the phrase ‘high expectations.’
This question lies at the heart of the common malady of our times: disillusionment. So many of us struggle with the sense that life is a chore, that life will never “get better.”
Why does making plans commonly set off a barrage of worries? Learn how you can stop worrying in 10 minutes or less and replace worry with a better option.
We often think that, if a project is important, we need to generate stress and fearful states of mind. Not so! Jack Elias offers insights based on a famous Zen teaching, to help you in dealing with stress while working on a big project.
Many of us have internalized messages of "failure" that we unwittingly repeat to ourselves. It is as though we have been conned. We've fallen for the idea that love is to be earned. We believe that we will only be loved if we do things "right" –– if we "succeed." Jack Elias explains how this happens, how we can turn it around and receive the loving encouragement we need.
Many people procrastinate (and paralyze) themselves when they have to make an important decision or organize a project. They think, “I’m terrible at this! I can’t seem to decide what to do, or when to do it.”
Do you ever worry, “What if I don’t succeed?” Jack Elias explains how we confuse success and self worth, and offers 5 Ways to help you invite success into your life.