My most important insights about applying mindfulness to work are grounded in an experience I had as head of the kitchen during a sesshin at Tassajara Zen Mountain Center in 1971.

You can learn to enjoy yourself pursuing relationships if you know the secrets of successful dating — and if you practice them. Beyond making sure you offer a common-sense, clean physical presentation (you should know that most people like this), the essential secret is to be yourself.

I am going to tell you a powerful secret. I am about to give you a powerful all-purpose tool for taming your mind, your emotional states and your compulsions. I give it in various forms to all my clients. In fact, I had just given it to a client the day before I went to a local chain store for some sundries . . .