With characteristic humor, Jack Elias gives the recipe for creating a mountain out of a molehill in relationships, and indicates how we can regain our perspective when we lose it.
It had never occurred to me to ask my mind, “Why are you confusing me with these thoughts?” But eventually, I decided to give it a try. You can use the same method to overcome worry and get your inspiration back!
Why is it essential to be kind to ourselves? It’s astonishing that this question would even come up! But it’s more astonishing how many of us don’t think we deserve kindness –– a tragic tribute to demeaning childhood programming and childhood trauma.
Much of what we call “stress” has to do with a feeling that things are “spinning out of control.” So I thought it might help to offer you a few effective steps you can take that will begin to free you from the stress of “spinning out of control.”
Have you ever wondered what is meant by the statement, “You create your own reality”? Some people feel empowered when they hear this statement. Others think it is ridiculous BS.
When my stepson was a young boy just learning to read, he was riding in the car with his mom one day. As they passed a big box toy store, he jumped up in his seat and read out loud the words of the store’s big bright banner: “The new Lion King toys are here!”
We all encounter suffering in relationships. Why? Because we make a few fundamental errors. Once we correct these errors in our thinking, and begin to act accordingly, we can save ourselves quite a lot of needless suffering.
Does the idea of a “joyful relationship” sound far-fetched? Everyone wants happy and healthy connections! So why is it such a challenge to maintain happiness and harmony in our relationships?
Getting stuck in anxious energy and busyness, but getting nowhere. Does this sound familiar? I call it "running in place," and it's a sure sign that I’ve stopped giving myself love and compassion. When you notice yourself doing this, don’t think, “I have to stop this.” Instead, think, “Oh! I'm running-in-place! I must be denying myself love and compassion.” Then if you like, you can put your hand to your heart as you do in the Hands Over Heart Technique I mentioned in this earlier post. . . .
A big part of the transformational process is challenging negative self talk (mean and nasty internal dialogue). Again and again we need to look at, see, and then cut through the roots and causes of self hatred.