If we feel upset when things go wrong or something unpleasant and unexpected happens, we’re not exactly unique in this world. But if we develop the habit of holding on to these upset feelings, we may resort to drinking too much, using drugs, or overeating (using food like a drug) in a futile effort to try and feel better.

Having worked with clients and students for many years, I’ve noticed that we are often extremely skilled at deluding and torturing ourselves. How do we do it? We speak using virtuous-sounding euphemisms for what are actually harsh and fear-inducing judgments. In my opinion, that is the case with the phrase ‘high expectations.’

We want to be kind, but sometimes we hold ourselves back. Ask yourself these questions to see what you can learn about your relationship with kindness. Then try these 8 ways of making kindness a habit!

Whether it is we ourselves or someone we love who receives a diagnosis of terminal illness –– the news stops us in our tracks. In that gap, our mind stops. After that, our mind may run in different directions––fear, grief, or shock set in . . . .

What is the “skill set” that allows us to develop clarity about helping others? How can we engage in acts of kindness or service wisely, so that our actions are truly effective? Our entire planet is sustained through an Intricate symphony of interdependent activity, engaged in constant help and support of the lives of all beings. Yet the skills for effectively offering help may be the most often overlooked knowledge throughout human history.

Overwhelmed by stress? Hypnosis, properly done, can help you override the mental patterns that are producing unnecessary stress for you and replace them with calm clarity and a sense of freshness. Jack Elias gives some basic tips for good de-stressing hypnosis.

Someone asked me, “How can I have a healthy relationship if I had no good role models?” The first thing to do is to cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself.

You can practice these 5 simple, yet powerfully healing actions that can dissolve your blind spot (the sense of unworthiness). In this way, you can develop the habit of being your own best friend.

Do you start and end your day immediately thinking about your “To Do” list or your “To Avoid” list or a mix of both? If so, you may have gotten used to a constant level of stress or anxiety and a speedy thinking mind, jumping form one line of thought to another: “I absolutely have to finish that report today” .